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I have been on a roller coaster that seemed like it would never stop, since I last blogged. So, I decided ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, I’m getting off this ride and getting back to being me!

Blogging, actually writing in general, is therapeutic for me. My whole point in blogging was to encourage other mothers, fathers, parents to be and people who are toying with thoughts of becoming a parent the real deal of the journey and to discuss womanhood, not losing yourself in the midst of life’s chaos, healthy living and embracing your natural hair, just to name a few. I’M BACK and focused! Time waits for no one, so I can’t play catch up, so instead I will turn a new page because it’s a NEW DAY😀!

Moral of the story, WE MAKE TIME FOR THE THINGS WE WANT TO, SO IF IT MEANS SOMETHING TO YOU, MAKE TIME! Even if you break it up into completing it over a period of 3 or 4 days, as long as you get it done. QUITTING IS NOT AN OPTION!

No Pedi – No Problem

As a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom) finding time for self-care can often be a challenge. For example finding the time and for some of us the cash to get a professional manicure/pedicure, get a massage/go to a spa, a trip to the beauty salon, shopping FOR YOURSELF (not the kids or your husband) or simply getting some alone me time to read a book/magazine even if it will only be for as little as 30 minutes. Although I would love to get all of those special treats on a regular basis, it just isn’t realistic. Personally getting a manicure/pedicure on a regular basis (every 2 weeks) is my top choice on , completely honest it only happens maybe 4 times a year. Recently, i decided I needed a pedicure, rough heels are not the way to go, no matter how busy you are, IT’S UNATTRACTIVE, a huge sign that you are neglecting yourself and a shame when your husband’s feet are smoother than yours.

So, off to the beauty supply store I went and purchased the products attached below. I purchased both products at Sally Beauty Supply Store for less than $7.00, much cheaper than a pedicure. I locked myself in the bathroom for 10 mins.and went to work😊. I love the fact that the pumice file has an antibacterial solution and the butter goes a long way. There is no need to use a lot of the butter to get the best results because it is very thick. After my homemade pedi, my feet felt smooth and soft like a baby’s bottom. I would definitely recommend these products, but most of all recommend that every momma must squeeze in some me time. If you can afford the time and finances for your special treats, have your husband or someone you trust watch your children and walk away for a few hours, no looking back! For those of you who can’t afford the time to get away for a few hours nor have the money to get your treatments, don’t fret check the internet, youtube and other sources for quick and affordable DIY (do it yourself) ideas/methods and products that won’t break your budget. My homemade pedicure took 10 minutes and cost less than $7.00. in addition those products will take me through at least 10 home made pedicures.

Ultimately my message is simply, squeeze that me time in, if not daily various treats, than weekly. It will brighten your mood and boost your confidence, because after all when you look good, you feel good. Your happiness will rub off on your parenting and your kids will in turn be happy too and for those of us that are married remember Happy Wife, Happy Life! TAKE CARE OF YOU, YOU’RE WORTH IT!




Rebel with a cause (against my family)

My world definitely revolves around my family life, specifically my kids; I would give anything and everything for my children. However, I am realizing more and more that it’s important to not sacrifice my identity while I sacrifice for my children. This is so much easier said than done when you’re juggling being a wife and a mother of two young children, but I know how important it is to remember that I am a woman first and I have an identity outside of these two roles.

I really do make an effort to take advantage of those moments where I can just be Jen and take off my wife and mother hats even if it’s just for an hour. Sometimes I bring dilemmas on myself because I get overly excited and so focused in on having me time. For example, once my husband gets home from work I will leave the kids home with him and plan for a trip to the market or a department store like Marshalls, which are both less than 15 mins.away, but I won’t get back home till about 4 hrs.later. SOMETIMES I GET CAUGHT UP! It really bothers my husband because I’m telling him one thing and doing another, so we finally decided that I need to just really be honest and give him a time much later than I expect so he can plan accordingly. But sometimes I forget and that time alone, that me time, that’s crucial, takes over and time moves quicker than I realize and I go off into me time lala land.

I am making an effort to keep my husband informed, but I am also making an effort to help him understand the importance of my getaways. He acknowledges that I work hard as a stay at home mother and wife, but he doesn’t have an understanding as to the psychology behind my getaways that I get carried away in. Well, one day soon enough I hope he gets it, cause me time lala land is not easy to get over and I honestly feel like I deserve me time lala land and it is more than okay:).

Here we have an example of that rebel with a cause attitude against my husband that is unintentional and I don’t realize I’m doing it until it’s too late, SORRY HON! And now on to the children.

My next example of my rebel with a cause attitude is quite intentional, but not practical. My poor Bella is a victim of this one. It all stems from my love for those moments where I have an opportunity to get out of my yoga pants and camis, house robe or lounge clothing and get dolled up! I get the chance to wear some makeup, dress up with THE OUTFIT THAT IS THE ONE and some heels.

I often have selective memory loss on one important detail though, (when my daughter is a part of this outing) that I am still nursing and therefore need to wear a nursing friendly outfit. You would think that I would remember this small detail after 11 months. But then that rebel with a cause attitude comes around and I say to myself, NO, I REFUSE! I refuse to wear that wrap dress or that button down shirt, when I have that boatneck dress that I haven’t worn since I’ve been pregnant with my daughter or that cute sleeveless mock turtleneck dress that is so flattering on me!

I reassure myself by saying something along the lines of, we will figure something out somehow IF she wants to nurse while we’re out…IF, IF, really I know better, my baby girl wants to nurse when she wants, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. So, that rebel with a cause gets me into quite a fiasco with a crying, yelling and a demanding baby because I want to wear what I want.

At the time when I’m getting dressed I convince myself that it’s a good idea; I deserve this opportunity to wear that dress, that outfit, until reality hits and I have to rush home or to an appropriate place where I can fully undress. Recently I made the decision that the non friendly nursing outfit is not worth the tears or fits of my daughter. Therefore, I have raised my white flag and given in. Although I love nursing and don’t believe in giving my daughter a deadline to stop nursing (my beliefs are somewhere between mommy led weaning and baby led meaning), I must admit that I am looking forward to wearing those non friendly nursing outfits again once that time comes.

I have so many more examples of the rebel with a cause attitude, but the main message in this post is simply “choose your battles”. Yes there are so many countless times when women and those of us that also hold the title of mommas compromise or disregard what we want for the people we love; our family. There is nothing wrong with being selfless, but there is something wrong with losing yourself or that alone, me time that is crucial for everyone. The getaway makes the return so much sweeter.

If it’s a walk around the block where you feel the wind against your skin and smell the roses, perhaps it’s a bike ride where you get a different view of the outdoors, maybe it’s a trip to the bookstore where you can get lost in a book or a trip to the nail salon, hair salon once a month to pamper yourself, DO IT FOR YOU, just be sure to plan ahead with your spouse/your significant other of your whereabouts so they don’t worry or feel uninformed and DEFINITELY if you’re breastfeeding wear that nursing friendly outfit, there will be a time when you can ditch them and have no limits on your fashion picks. No need to learn the hard way, I have done that for all of us!