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Freed from the cage of unforgiveness😀!

One of the key things that gives me peace and sanity to get through my day is reading. A few months ago I kept “bumping” into John 15:11-17, in several devotions within a week. In this bible passage it basically talks about God’s love for us and because He chose us, and loved on us regardless of our sinful ways that it is reason enough for us to love on others. Early on during that very week I also attempted to reconcile a friendship that has been “estranged” (we went from being sisters to strangers) for a little more than a year. My heart grieved the loss of what we had and I believe she would say the same. I could only take that first step because I was ready to be humble, acknowledge my stuff and forgive her. Things between us are not peaches and cream, but I know and believe God will turn things around for our good, no matter what direction our friendship goes from here on out! 

Is there someone you need to reconcile with? Have you been at a point of your life where you forgot that God calls you friend? If He can forgive and love on us, we can do the same to others! You can only do this by remembering that forgiveness is not about letting the other person get away with what they did/said, it is about letting yourself be free from the cage of bitterness, frustration, hurt, and anger towards them. The cage of unforgiveness started to get uncomfortable and I decided to be have faith, open the door and be set free in Jesus Christ. You no longer have to be a victim, you are not stuck, the cage has never had a lock on it, all you have to do is open up the door! 

JOHN 15:11-17

11 I have told you this so that you will be as joyful as I am, and your joy will be complete. 12 Love each other as I have loved you. This is what I’m commanding you to do. 13 The greatest love you can show is to give your life for your friends. 14 You are my friends if you obey my commandments. 15 I don’t call you servants anymore, because a servant doesn’t know what his master is doing. But I’ve called you friends because I’ve made known to you everything that I’ve heard from my Father. 16 You didn’t choose me, but I chose you. I have appointed you to go, to produce fruit that will last, and to ask the Father in my name to give you whatever you ask for. 17 Love each other. This is what I’m commanding you to do.


I have been on a roller coaster that seemed like it would never stop, since I last blogged. So, I decided ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, I’m getting off this ride and getting back to being me!

Blogging, actually writing in general, is therapeutic for me. My whole point in blogging was to encourage other mothers, fathers, parents to be and people who are toying with thoughts of becoming a parent the real deal of the journey and to discuss womanhood, not losing yourself in the midst of life’s chaos, healthy living and embracing your natural hair, just to name a few. I’M BACK and focused! Time waits for no one, so I can’t play catch up, so instead I will turn a new page because it’s a NEW DAY😀!

Moral of the story, WE MAKE TIME FOR THE THINGS WE WANT TO, SO IF IT MEANS SOMETHING TO YOU, MAKE TIME! Even if you break it up into completing it over a period of 3 or 4 days, as long as you get it done. QUITTING IS NOT AN OPTION!

Easier said than done–BUT DON’T QUIT


Three weeks into the new year and here I am struggling to stay positive and speak life. I am trying to think in a new way so I can speak and act in a new way, since I can only control my words and actions. Once I conquer negative thinking and speaking, no matter what comes my way, HOW I RESPOND is key to Peace & Happiness or Anxiety & Bitterness.

But just for today I have to be honest about where I was/how I was today. My food choices can be out of whack when my mood is whack and my mood wasn’t right today…

I have been doing so well this week, eating more veggies, fruits, juicing, good protein and cutting my salt intake. BUT TODAY, I didn’t want to speak, but I wanted to eat, smh..So here’s a pic of me sadly posing with regular egg beaters instead of my egg whites, smh.. I gave in, to temptation and honestly I am not feeling guilty about it, although I feel like I should, I really don’t. I topped it off with some shredded cheese, smh..However, I realize that imperfect me will have days like this, but I can’t afford to get comfortable and let those days, become weeks, months, etc. I am allowing myself this moment, but I am also telling myself, “Self, you can’t stay in your feelings, get in a rut and waste all the hard work that you have done this week for some words or actions directed your way that hurt you/pissed you off. BREATHE, INHALE, EXHALE, SPEAK UP and MAKE PEACE with whatever it is and LET IT GO”. SNAP OUT OF IT!!

When my nerves were going wild, I put my kids in their high chairs/booster seats, put on their ABC Phonics program, put their snacks on their trays and went to my oasis. My getaway. My Niagara Falls. The bathroom, lol! I took a look in the mirror and did some positive self talk. I reminded myself that It’s a new year, but even better, TOMORROW IS A NEW DAY!

If you have found yourself slowly but surely trying to head into a rut, pray, push, pull, do whatever you have to do to get out of it and if you don’t feel strong enough to do it alone, Surrender it. Surrender to God and ask someone you trust for help! Have a great weekend folks! #newyearnewme #newyearnewyou #therewillbesomestumblingalongtheway #butgetupandpresson